Where do you go to safely confront the thoughts and goals that define you? Where you can step out of the face you show the world every day - after work, after school, after parenting. After the stress and the constantly establishing and maintaining boundaries.
A safe haven is a place (or person) of refuge or safety, sanctuary, oasis, a port of protection in a storm. It also offers favorable conditions for opportunities. Everyone needs a place like this of their own. A place or person you can go to that provides stability and tranquility that you feel very comfortable around.
Where you can look at mistakes without feeling chastised and can help you cope with any difficulties you have faced throughout the day. Life is filled with alot of obstacles with twists and turns you can't always control. So you need a safe environment to escape and reflect on the path you are currently on. One where no one tells you: "stay busy", "keep going", "push through it", "get used to it", "that's just life, get over it". Obviously you have tried, and are trying, and need a break.
Being productive and contributing to others well being is next to impossible to accomplish if you are going through some type of turbulence yourself. Be glad when you are okay. But admit when you aren't okay. That in itself relieves the pressure. When you present perfection every moment of every day, people expect you to live up to it. Worse yet, you expect to live up to it every second. That must be really exhausting for you.
A safe haven gives you peace, courage and confidence. Helps you get grounded. Gives time and space for reflection.
If this is a person. You won't feel judged but encouraged. They will help celebrate life. You will never feel belittled for your opinion or for taking time to consider all perspectives.
You will express yourself and they will express themselves in a trustful environment. Seeing each other as a unique human being with value. With the conversational rapport, you will see it generate a positive energy as it occurs. Both feeling heard and appreciated. In an atmosphere of emotional safety, vulnerability, connection, trust, support and security. Always lifting each other up. Sharing advice with patience and understanding.
You won't fret over whether there is an issue with how you do something. Or worry about frustrating or irritating them. You won't protect yourself by holding back and guarding your vulnerability.
You will feel that in this space or with this person, that you have a safe harbor from the world's cynicism, judgement, expectations and harshness. So take care of yourself, your safe space, and your safe person. Try to be healthy. Work at and allow your happiness. Be calm. Be centered. And mostly Be Yourself.
Until next Sunday my friends. Be Well.